Friday, April 17, 2015
So, I need to tell you guys something: I quit my job. Well, that sounds harsher than it ought to. I retired? At least for now. I'm going to try the stay-at-home-mom thing (although, I prefer "leave-the-house-any-time-I-want-or-need-to-mom") and see how that works out for us. And since I knew I wasn't going to be taking an actual maternity leave, I decided to be done a few weeks before my due date, to have some time to rest up and hopefully accomplish all the crazy little things that I want to get done. And I'm glad I did, because I have had visitors for the last 2 weeks, and it has been awesome to not have to worry about work!
Warning- I might get a little ranty here...
It's really weird to explain the "stay-at-home-mom" plan to people. I've learned that there are very strong opinions about this decision (as with every parent-related decision: it's insane!). A handful of women go into rants about how it's the best decision ever, and they stayed home with their kids, and they just can't believe that everyone doesn't do it. Another subset seems to think I have betrayed all women by abandoning my career for the menial task of taking care of a baby, and won't I be so bored? And how will I pick back up if I want to start working again??? The good news is that most people seem okay with either option, and just say they are happy for me, and we go along on our ways.
To be 100% clear - I know plenty of amazing parents, some of them stay home, some of them work part-time, some of them work full-time. They all love their kids and are doing what works best for their own families and their own situations. (Apply this logic to pretty much every parenting decision anyone can make).
So for me, for my family, for right now, quitting my job is the right decision. I'm super excited that I won't have an end date to staying home with my baby. If 3 months go by (or 3 years), and I want or need to go back to work, maybe I will. Or maybe I will never have a job again? I really don't know.
And I might get in trouble for saying this, but I keep seeing posts on Facebook or wherever about how stay at home moms should get paid x-million dollars a year, because they are the daycare, and the laundromat, and the cook, maid, therapist, blah blah blah. While I do think it's important to value parents who stay home, that kind of thing annoys me. Moms and dads who work also do the laundry, right? Also cook dinner? Also care for their children the majority of the hours in the week? I mean, I've been working for the last 8 years, and no one says I should get paid extra for vacuuming the living room on the weekends. It's called being a person. Sure, I could hire a personal chef to cook for me, and it would cost $13000 a year. That doesn't mean I should get paid $13000 a year to feed myself. Right? Okay, don't hate me for saying that!
Oh, and I still get to like weekends because it means John isn't at work. So Happy Friday!
*this is the outfit I wore on my last day of work, a couple weeks ago. The blog is all out of order at the moment!
Cardigan: Gap factory
Scarf: JCF (top 10 remix item)
Tee: Target maternity